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Write You - What To Do If You Suspect Your Loved One is Cheating-Without Going Bonkers
It's a fact... people who are wealthy live in ways that make them that way. They don't believe in car loans, wasteful spending or "easy" payments. Even though most people will never have the wealth of Bill Gates or Donald Trump, that doesn't mean you can't be wealthy if you work at it. In 2004, the number of households worth $1 million (not including not including primary residences) grew 21% to 7.5 million.So what are their secrets? The answers shouldn't surprise you.Give money. People who have money give a lot of money away. Dave stresses this! If you help people who are less fortunate, it will teach you to be satisfied with what you have. When that happens, you won't think the key to happiness is a new convertible with a $600 payment attached to it. Charitable giving and "paying it forward" are things that many rich people practice. Households with $500,000 or more in assets give away about 6% of their earnings, which is about 3 times the average of all American families.Goodbye, credit! The richest 10% of Americans are half as likely to have credit card debt. They are also 20% less likely to have installment loans.Hot wheels? Many wealthy people don't spend a lot of money on cars as a percentage of their wealth. The richest 10% of Americans spend about 2.4% of their net worth on cars. Translated: You won't likely go to a rich person's house and see 10 SUVs parked in the driveway!Stash it! 62% of wealthy Americans own or contribute to IRAs, mutual funds, 401(k) plans and other investments.It takes time to become wealthy. Most people look at a rich person and don't see the sacrifices he or she has made or the frugal lifestyle they have lived. Once you adopt that economical lifestyle, start investing and don't carelessly spend money, it will become less of a sacrifice for you because it will be habit.
Music. Talk Radio. The TV in the other room. The neighbors indulging in their daily bedroom shenanigans or screaming match. The cats purring on her lap. The poodle down the street yapping at all hours of the day or night. The jacked up SUV with the bass booming so loud the windows shake as it drives by. The guy on the bus with his headset cranked so loud that the tinny boom-boom-boom after a long day at work could drive you to murder. Crickets just after the sun goes down. The red-tailed hawk perched about the cow pasture.Sounds are all around us and finding even a few moments of peace and quiet can be a real challenge. You have people who rush home at the end of the day, close the door and only then relax because it's finally quiet.And then there are some people who can't stand even a second of quiet and the TV or radio or telephone is always going. Maybe they can't stand being alone or the constant input makes them feel safe.Sounds have different meanings and impact depending on the person hearing them. What drives one person nuts might not even be noticed by someone else. Some people are more sensitive to certain sounds than others. Women tend to hear and notice more than men.Adding sounds to your story is a detail that gives more dimension, increases believability and gives your story more impact. Weaving in bits of things your character hears, makes your story more immediate and helps pull the reader in. You don't have to drop in reams of description or include everything she hears, just enough to set the stage and get the reader's imagination going so they fill in the rest from their own experience.You could mention a duck doing that happy quack quack quack that sounds like it's laughing. Or the three year old in the sandbox screaming as his brother pours sand over his head. Or the teenager next door squealing with laughter as she talks to a friend on her cell phone - you could even include a snippet of the story as counterpoint to something going on in your character's head. (Hint: write down all the cell phone conversations you hear. People generally talk really loudly on their cell phones and don’t have a tendency to censor themselves, so you can usually get some useful or even juicy tidbits.)This next week, go to the park, a caf?, a bookstore,
No matter what you learn, you will survive and you will be stronger and wiser for it. Most of us on this planet have either cheated or been cheated on, and most of us survive the experience. Finding out that your loved one has or is cheating will not destroy you.
So, since you suspect your loved one is cheating, again, take a deep breath, calm down. Here we go: 1. Recognize that just because you suspect something, doesn’t mean it’s so. Until you have more information don’t do anything. 2. Ask yourself questions. What incident or incidents is causing you to suspect an affair? Write it out with as much detail as possible. 3. Write out how the incident or incidents made you feel with as much detail as possible. 4. Take a deep breath and give yourself a big pat on the back for taking the time to collect your thoughts before going off half cocked. 5. Talk to your loved one. Mind you I say “talk”, not “confront”. Your goal is discussion, not confrontation. Tell them about the incident/s and how it made you feel. Breath. 6. Listen to what they have to say. Really listen. Does he/she acknowledge your feelings? Does he/she have a reasonable explanation for the incident/s? Does he/she express a willingness to hear what you would like to have happen in the future to avoid any misunderstanding? 7. End your conversation with your loved one, and thank them for listening. Leave. Take stock of the conversation by writing down as much as possible. Are you satisfied? Did the explanation make sense? Were your feelings heard? Was there a resolution to handling similar situations in the future? If so, go to your loved one and give them a big hug. Thank them for listening without criticizing, and go make some sweet love! If the conversation was not satisfactory to you, what was missing? Do you still have quest
Banner stands are one of the tools that can be effectively used for advertising. In fact, it has been found that banner stands are ideal means through which one can advertise about goods and services. Mostly, banner stands can be found in large numbers at exhibitions, displays and trade shows. Depending on the type of goods which you want to advertise, you can choose a location and through the use of banner stands, say what you want to tell to your prospective customers.The idea of any business is to attract customers who will buy their goods. And what better way to do this than using banner stands to advertise about your goods and services. Based on the target audience which you have in mind, you can choose where to set up your advertisement and attract people towards what you want to sell. This is one great and simple way to come to the notice of the public. Banner stands have been found by many people to be an effective medium for advertising.Anything different has the capacity to attract people. Likewise if you tell your message in a different way through the use of banner stands, you are bound to catch the attention of people. Just make sure that your banner is entire different from the other banners that are in display in the trade show. Banner stands are of different types and sizes. They can be telescopic, retractable, portable, roll-up and pole. With so many options for an individual to choose from, nothing can go wrong in choosing a banner stand to advertise about your goods.The most commonly used type of banner stand is portable banner stand. There are several advantages of using portable banner stands for advertising. First, the cost of using portable banner stand is comparatively low than other stands. Second portable banner stands are easy to install and disintegrate. All one needs to do is put up the portable banner stand at a vantage point and at the end of the day just assemble it back without any hassles.That is not all, banner stands can be reused a number of times. So after you have used it once, you can store it and make use of it the next time when you have to advertise anything. Due to these advantages, portable banner stands are a huge hit among many people. Portable banners stands are also easier to pack and transport from one place to another.What you need
So, since you suspect your loved one is cheating, again, take a deep breath, calm down. Here we go: 1. Recognize that just because you suspect something, doesn’t mean it’s so. Until you have more information don’t do anything. 2. Ask yourself questions. What incident or incidents is causing you to suspect an affair? Write it out with as much detail as possible. 3. Write out how the incident or incidents made you feel with as much detail as possible. 4. Take a deep breath and give yourself a big pat on the back for taking the time to collect your thoughts before going off half cocked. 5. Talk to your loved one. Mind you I say “talk”, not “confront”. Your goal is discussion, not confrontation. Tell them about the incident/s and how it made you feel. Breath. 6. Listen to what they have to say. Really listen. Does he/she acknowledge your feelings? Does he/she have a reasonable explanation for the incident/s? Does he/she express a willingness to hear what you would like to have happen in the future to avoid any misunderstanding? 7. End your conversation with your loved one, and thank them for listening. Leave. Take stock of the conversation by writing down as much as possible. Are you satisfied? Did the explanation make sense? Were your feelings heard? Was there a resolution to handling similar situations in the future? If so, go to your loved one and give them a big hug. Thank them for listening without criticizing, and go make some sweet love! If the conversation was not satisfactory to you, what was missing? Do you still have ques
CELL PHONE ETIQUETTE Okay, I’ll admit I have been pushed over the edge. This morning, while reading the newspaper, I learned that a major airline is going to allow the use of the cell phone while taxiing to the gate! Can you imagine what that is going to be like? For two years I have thinking about doing a seminar on cell phone etiquette. Back then; I was sitting in a restaurant waiting for my luncheon companion to arrive. There were two men in the booth next me having a quiet lunch when one of their cell phones went off. Not only were they oblivious to the fact that I was sitting behind them, they continued to talk on the phone for a half hour. Guess what? They we negotiating a major contract. It was impossible not to hear them, the terms of the agreement, and what they would give if the going got tough. Hmmmm. Just imagine had I been one of their competitors. How could they have possibly known I wasn’t? For that matter, how did they know the person at booth on their other side wasn’t a competitor or relative of their competitor?<
When setting up a communications plan for your real estate business, a blog is a great resource to use. Anyone who is capable of typing an email or office memo can publish a blog. You can use a blog to create an online presence even if you are not extremely technologically advanced.A blog can help to increase your chances of being pulled up in a search engine search. There are several reasons that this happens. Blogs are generally updated frequently and many search engines rank sites in an order of popularity or most recently updated. They may also keep record of every time someone links to your blog, thus increasing your popularity standings as well.So how do you find these readers? It is difficult to remain focused on writing at the beginning when you have few or no readers. You write but are not sure that anyone is actually reading. Unfortunately, that is how it is when you first begin your blog. However, keep in mind that part of the work you have to put into your blog is attracting readers.You have to earn those readers over time. How do you earn readers? You cannot simply start a blog and expect them to find you. You have to find a way to make your blog memorable and to make it something they will want to visit over and over again. Consider using the three steps outlined below to put your blog in the category of qualified reading.First of all, you have to create a blog that is actually worth viewing. Make it worthwhile for readers to subscribe to your blog. Don't simply lift content from various places on the web and put them in your blog postings. Instead create content that shares your blogs purpose and your own personality. You need to make your blog something that readers actually want to read. Determine who your intended audience will be and create content that is relevant to that audience.Secondly, you need to make it fairly easy for readers to subscribe to your blog. It can be extremely helpful to use an RSS freed. RSS stands for Really Simple Syndication. Using RSS subscription buttons allow readers to easily subscribe. For example, visitors who have their own Yahoo webpage can click on an "Add to Yahoo" button on your blog site, and your blog will be added to their page via your RSS feed. Each ti
Procuration fees paid by some sub-prime lenders are too high.Fact.There can be no justification for some of the fees paid by lenders. Proc fees of 2.75%-plus are simply deplorable when it is clients who will ultimately pay the price through an extra loading on the interest rate they pay, be it at the front end or - as is more common with some lenders - at the back end after an initial deep discount.Traditionally, high proc fees were justified by the relative complexity and extent of the work undertaken by the intermediary on behalf of customers with specialist financial needs; for those customers with more heavily impaired credit backgrounds, there was more work so the fee was higher.But advances in technology mean obtaining the required information is now relatively straightforward so how on earth can lenders still justify paying fees of 2.75% or more?Consumer protection is paramount. Those lenders that continue to hide behind the excuse that the fees they pay impact only on their own profit and loss accounts are fooling nobody. In the end it's the client that pays.It's a sorry state of affairs when a lender's only method of attracting business is to pay a high fee.The sooner the Financial Services Authority wakes up and takes a look at some of the players in this often murky sector, the better.It's time for a change and we need it right NOW.
The Trusted Friend
The trusted friend is not the one who buys into your bullshit. The trusted friend is the one who tells you that no, leg warmers and baggy fuchsia tops are not your best look. The trusted friend is the one who tells when you have done one shooter too many, and it’s time to go home. This is your honest, no bullshit friend. Your trusted friend is the one you are going to do a reality test with, to check if your concerns are valid.
Reality Test 1. Share with your trusted friend the incident or incidents that are causing you to suspect an affair. Don’t embellish, don’t leave anything out. Ask them how they might have perceived the incident. 2. Share with them your conversation with your loved one, what
was said and how you felt after. Get some feedback. 3. Ask your friend if they would describe you as someone prone to jealousy. Ask them to be honest, and be prepared for the answer. If at the end of the Reality Test, your trusted friend tells you that it sounds like you’re making a mountain out of a mole hill, seriously consider that this may be the case. Maybe you’re missing something in your relationship that you’ve been afraid to ask. Consider doing something f
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