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Write You - What To Do When Coaching Takes Criticism - 8 Things I Personally Try To Live By
What do you do if you are a seller who needs finding the goods of high quality and competitive prices as soon as possible? You research the market, surf the Net, ask others for help, however are these best ways of your behavior in a situation like that?The market is such that there is always demand and supply. It is nice when these two are in balance but it is not always like that. Supply as a rule outweighs demand but there are such niches of business where the situation is the opposite and it is demand that outweighs supply. If that is the case in the sector of economy you are in, it is at the same time gives you advantages and may slow your trade.The thing is that if demand outweighs supply you will have problem finding suppliers. In that case you have to turn to drop shippers. These are people who offer you deals with manufacturers of anything and get a certain per cent for that. It as a rule pays off as the help they provide you with can be hard to estimate.When you know you need to take advantage of drop shipper’s services you ask yourself a question: ‘Where can I find a good dropshipper. The thing is that there are loads of them everywhere these days but you need a good one, not simply a drop shipper. Check the below lists and find what you need (people often ask why these directories are f
This is one of the reasons why it's critically important that coaches are never desperate for a client...the dynamic is instantly manipulative if that's the case.
I remember a mentor coach who I shadowed at the very beginning of my introduction to coaching. I had a visceral aversion to the way he seemed to revel in his clients' dependency...he would answer emails at all hours, always return phone calls, sometimes within a few minutes, encourage clients to be in touch very frequently...
On the face of it, this may seem like a strange thing to dislike...but I'm a fan of drawing out more self-sufficiency in a client. So I set it up that way - clients know I won't al
The world of franchising faces a unique challenge when it comes to developing motivating and ultimately increasing the success of its brand and the individuals that create it.The continuous battle is between providing the support that franchise's need, allowing the individuals the space to express themselves and having the consistency in approach and delivery that protects and enhances the franchises brand and market position.So with a difficult challenge facing each relationship within a franchise how do you make the most of the huge resource and potential that is just waiting to be released?The answer lies in playing to the strengths of the people involved in the franchise and knowing when you need help.The Franchisor What is it that you know best? Where do your strengths lie and what do the franchisees look to you to provide? Corporate Jedi's experience suggests that franchisees want some direction and support in building a business structure. They want to know that their money is well spent and that their return on investment will be worth the effort. They want the tools that allow them to succeed and a platform to build from.As franchisors, you are the best people to provide this basis for success. You have developed systems, process and structure that you
First - don't get me wrong, I'm not fearmongering here. But experience tells me that with topics such as Law of Attraction gaining so much ground so rapidly, and Oprah taking on 'The Secret' and so on, there will be push-back.
And the criticism will take many forms, some visible and some invisible - the latter even sometimes comes from family and friends.
But here's the thing about criticism: most of the time I believe there's something in it that's of value, that can be 'taken like a vitamin' so as to make us stronger. It gives us 'rigor' as it were.
Which is why I try to listen carefully to critics. Because in all of our idealism and desire for a better world, it still pays to have a discerning eye, yes?
In response to the questions I've received about this prediction, probably the most useful thing I can publish is a list I've made of "8 Things I Personally Try to Live By, as an active practicing coach." As I process questions about the efficacy of coaching, handle push-back, or even take criticism, I like to test myself against what's said and tweak or refine. It's a little like a 'living code of conduct' and one of my most fundamental tools for growth.
In no particular order:
(1) Be responsible. First, last and foremost - do no harm.
As simple a baseline as this is for any coach, it's still one worth noting. I find this one grounds me when I read it as I do from time to time - and helps me take a light touch in sessions.
Have you asked yourself lately, how responsible (or irresponsible) are you being in your coaching? Are you going out on a limb and taking unnecessary risks? Even if they're just words to you, what you say and do, how you 'are,' in your sessions can have a lifelong impact. So these are words to live by - even if you think 'you know.' First, do no harm.
(2) Come to understand all clients will be 'done' one day.
There are short client relationships, and long client relationships. But no client relationship is forever. I like to look into the future a little and 'wonder' when a certain client may be 'done' and ready to move on, having grown out of our relationship. Not anticipate or force, mind you, just wonder...
Or, if I don't sense a feeling of 'completion' forthcoming with a client, I ask what's going on in the coaching that's lending us such a degree of 'comfort.' I don't doubt it's possible to have a coach-client relationship that's alive and awake after 5, 10 or more years, but I feel strongly these are in the minority. For everything there is a season, and all that... so yes, I look forward to witnessing great milestones in my clients' lives, and to saying a happy adieu.
Ask yourself "Are you in any way making efforts to keep your clients coming back?"
Do you know how to say goodbye to a client when it *is* time to say goodbye?*
(3) Cultivate self-sufficiency always. Be a no-addiction zone.
There is a huge world of a difference between marketing your services successfully, then securing a client as a result and ....creating an addictive relationship. Yet sometimes the differences can get blurry.
This is one of the reasons why it's critically important that coaches are never desperate for a client...the dynamic is instantly manipulative if that's the case.
I remember a mentor coach who I shadowed at the very beginning of my introduction to coaching. I had a visceral aversion to the way he seemed to revel in his clients' dependency...he would answer emails at all hours, always return phone calls, sometimes within a few minutes, encourage clients to be in touch very frequently...
On the face of it, this may seem like a strange thing to dislike...but I'm a fan of drawing out more self-sufficiency in a client. So I set it up that way - clients know I won't al
It pays to advertise. In fact, it's a proven fact that if you don't advertise, no one will notice you. So it is no wonder that advertisers are leaving no stone unturned at having their says displayed prominently. And one immensely popular mode of outdoor publicity is the advertising balloon, soaring high up in the sky and swaying ever so gently in the breeze. You just cannot miss an advertising balloon, with its awesome size, wacky messages and of course, the very eye-catching graphics or the signage.Advertisers are very finicky about what signage they put up on their advertising balloons. Much more than the size, it is actually the signage on the advertising balloon that determines its efficacy and visibility. The signage is also important for a variety of other reasons:- It will serve to promote brand recognition. This is primarily the reason why advertisers opt for balloons shaped like the product they are promoting. Thus you actually have balloons that resemble the Brut cologne bottle, the Wehrenberg Popcorn Bag, Kellogg's Tony the Tiger, the Kodak Film Canister or the King's Family Restaurant ice cream tub.- The appropriate signage on the advertising balloon will generate a sentimental bonding with the consumers. This is why Disney Theme Park promotional campaigns used the ever-adorable Micke
In response to the questions I've received about this prediction, probably the most useful thing I can publish is a list I've made of "8 Things I Personally Try to Live By, as an active practicing coach." As I process questions about the efficacy of coaching, handle push-back, or even take criticism, I like to test myself against what's said and tweak or refine. It's a little like a 'living code of conduct' and one of my most fundamental tools for growth.
In no particular order:
(1) Be responsible. First, last and foremost - do no harm.
As simple a baseline as this is for any coach, it's still one worth noting. I find this one grounds me when I read it as I do from time to time - and helps me take a light touch in sessions.
Have you asked yourself lately, how responsible (or irresponsible) are you being in your coaching? Are you going out on a limb and taking unnecessary risks? Even if they're just words to you, what you say and do, how you 'are,' in your sessions can have a lifelong impact. So these are words to live by - even if you think 'you know.' First, do no harm.
(2) Come to understand all clients will be 'done' one day.
There are short client relationships, and long client relationships. But no client relationship is forever. I like to look into the future a little and 'wonder' when a certain client may be 'done' and ready to move on, having grown out of our relationship. Not anticipate or force, mind you, just wonder...
Or, if I don't sense a feeling of 'completion' forthcoming with a client, I ask what's going on in the coaching that's lending us such a degree of 'comfort.' I don't doubt it's possible to have a coach-client relationship that's alive and awake after 5, 10 or more years, but I feel strongly these are in the minority. For everything there is a season, and all that... so yes, I look forward to witnessing great milestones in my clients' lives, and to saying a happy adieu.
Ask yourself "Are you in any way making efforts to keep your clients coming back?"
Do you know how to say goodbye to a client when it *is* time to say goodbye?*
(3) Cultivate self-sufficiency always. Be a no-addiction zone.
There is a huge world of a difference between marketing your services successfully, then securing a client as a result and ....creating an addictive relationship. Yet sometimes the differences can get blurry.
This is one of the reasons why it's critically important that coaches are never desperate for a client...the dynamic is instantly manipulative if that's the case.
I remember a mentor coach who I shadowed at the very beginning of my introduction to coaching. I had a visceral aversion to the way he seemed to revel in his clients' dependency...he would answer emails at all hours, always return phone calls, sometimes within a few minutes, encourage clients to be in touch very frequently...
On the face of it, this may seem like a strange thing to dislike...but I'm a fan of drawing out more self-sufficiency in a client. So I set it up that way - clients know I won't al
IntroductionManagers tend to cringe when they hear the word “culture,” because cultures seem so mysterious and organic, and they are one of the parts of the organization that managers can’t control. At least, that’s the myth; but in fact you can design your organization’s culture and then set out to create it in very straightforward ways. The catch is that changing a culture requires time, participation from everyone in the organization, a long term plan and careful monitoring.Step 1: What Culture Do You Want?Probably the hardest part of the cultural change process is deciding what kind of culture you want to have in your organization. Should it be a strict hierarchy, or maybe a democracy, or a loose federation of experts, or something else entirely? How will people make decisions? How will resources be distributed? What are the penalties for failure and the rewards for success? You won’t be able to answer these questions all at once, because they will evolve over time, but you need to think hard about the kind of culture you would like to work in - the culture that is likely to attract the people you need to achieve your goals. This cultural visioning works best if you can engage everyone in the organization and if everyone feels committed to the project and shar
Have you asked yourself lately, how responsible (or irresponsible) are you being in your coaching? Are you going out on a limb and taking unnecessary risks? Even if they're just words to you, what you say and do, how you 'are,' in your sessions can have a lifelong impact. So these are words to live by - even if you think 'you know.' First, do no harm.
(2) Come to understand all clients will be 'done' one day.
There are short client relationships, and long client relationships. But no client relationship is forever. I like to look into the future a little and 'wonder' when a certain client may be 'done' and ready to move on, having grown out of our relationship. Not anticipate or force, mind you, just wonder...
Or, if I don't sense a feeling of 'completion' forthcoming with a client, I ask what's going on in the coaching that's lending us such a degree of 'comfort.' I don't doubt it's possible to have a coach-client relationship that's alive and awake after 5, 10 or more years, but I feel strongly these are in the minority. For everything there is a season, and all that... so yes, I look forward to witnessing great milestones in my clients' lives, and to saying a happy adieu.
Ask yourself "Are you in any way making efforts to keep your clients coming back?"
Do you know how to say goodbye to a client when it *is* time to say goodbye?*
(3) Cultivate self-sufficiency always. Be a no-addiction zone.
There is a huge world of a difference between marketing your services successfully, then securing a client as a result and ....creating an addictive relationship. Yet sometimes the differences can get blurry.
This is one of the reasons why it's critically important that coaches are never desperate for a client...the dynamic is instantly manipulative if that's the case.
I remember a mentor coach who I shadowed at the very beginning of my introduction to coaching. I had a visceral aversion to the way he seemed to revel in his clients' dependency...he would answer emails at all hours, always return phone calls, sometimes within a few minutes, encourage clients to be in touch very frequently...
On the face of it, this may seem like a strange thing to dislike...but I'm a fan of drawing out more self-sufficiency in a client. So I set it up that way - clients know I won't al
Whether you want a flier or a brochure to publicize your products and services, wish to communicate with other people through a newsletter or in-house magazine or want to publish a magazine as a commercial prospect, printing is the technology that becomes the most essential factor. Commercial printing is a highly technical task and most people, not familiar with the processes, are easily overwhelmed by the many parameters involved. Printing is not just putting words on paper. It involves the choice of text design, images (either photographs or graphics or a combination of both), the quality of paper the final output is produced on as also the packaging in terms of folding, lamination or binding.To ensure that the end product is of the same quality as you had desired, the various stages of the printing process must be understood. The first is what is referred to as pre-press and this involves the assemblage of text, graphics, illustrations and photographs that you want printed. With computers now working as desktop publishing systems, it is possible to choose the style and design of your document(s) and the same can be transferred to a printer or handed over to a commercial printing agency for reproduction in mass volume. For example, if you need to publish 10,000 copies of your newsletter, you obviously cannot
Ask yourself "Are you in any way making efforts to keep your clients coming back?"
Do you know how to say goodbye to a client when it *is* time to say goodbye?*
(3) Cultivate self-sufficiency always. Be a no-addiction zone.
There is a huge world of a difference between marketing your services successfully, then securing a client as a result and ....creating an addictive relationship. Yet sometimes the differences can get blurry.
This is one of the reasons why it's critically important that coaches are never desperate for a client...the dynamic is instantly manipulative if that's the case.
I remember a mentor coach who I shadowed at the very beginning of my introduction to coaching. I had a visceral aversion to the way he seemed to revel in his clients' dependency...he would answer emails at all hours, always return phone calls, sometimes within a few minutes, encourage clients to be in touch very frequently...
On the face of it, this may seem like a strange thing to dislike...but I'm a fan of drawing out more self-sufficiency in a client. So I set it up that way - clients know I won't al
“Trend following” is a strategy normally associated with trading. You won’t see it associated with Top Web Entrepreneurs. This is surprising. The strategy serves both types of activities quite well. I intend to set the record straight with this article!First, A Bit Of BackgroundIf you lookup “trend following” on Google, it will report that some 286,000 pages mention the expression. I am willing to bet that most, if not all, are related to speculative trading.However, I am also willing to bet that Top Web Entrepreneurs, whether knowingly or not, use a strategy based on “trend following” to guide them in their choice of Web endeavors.Let me explain.I used to invest my money. That has brought me a certain significant return. But, it took decades of compounding the meager crumbs that the banks and other financial institutions were (reluctantly) giving me in interest.One day, in 1998, I switched strategy. I became trader. I am what is known as a “system trader”. I have developed a system to protect myself while trading. My trading is based on a “trend following strategy”.I’m proud to say that it works remarkably well. For me, that is. There’s a catch, you see. It requires strict adherence to the a plan: my plan.My plan, discipline, tight control over emotions, and pa
This is one of the reasons why it's critically important that coaches are never desperate for a client...the dynamic is instantly manipulative if that's the case.
I remember a mentor coach who I shadowed at the very beginning of my introduction to coaching. I had a visceral aversion to the way he seemed to revel in his clients' dependency...he would answer emails at all hours, always return phone calls, sometimes within a few minutes, encourage clients to be in touch very frequently...
On the face of it, this may seem like a strange thing to dislike...but I'm a fan of drawing out more self-sufficiency in a client. So I set it up that way - clients know I won't always reply quickly - they get a chance to think over their own questions. My answer comes more as an affirmation or addition to their own thoughts - but this way the key result is: they learn to think more assertively for themselves, and I'm the environment that supports that.
How might you be creating - even in a tiny way - a dependency on you in your clients? How can you embody tough love - the kind of love that creates strong individuals who don't need anything outside their own inner strength to continue on the path they've discovered? How might your financial situation be influencing how you relate to your clients?
(4) Focus on results, not just methodology or process.
Although results don't have to be money, or a promotion, relationship or other tangible thing, do ask yourself what intangible results you are creating. The best way to do this is still (only) to request your clients' self-assess.
Many clients may not realize they have the right to always be assessing your coaching relationship. You can help them by making sure they know they can always ask for tweaks, more focus, greater intensity or, indeed, whatever it is they want more of.
Coaching is not a 'holding pattern.'
(5) Encourage critical thinking.
Have you ever wondered why so many of us use our brains as storage facilities not thinking facilities? We go to conferences, listen to tapes, even read books with the goal of retaining as much as possible. This is not the original purpose for the human brain.
So first, think about how you might have stopped thinking critically about things, instead of just trying to remember things. And then, up the ante and ask how you can support your clients to think for themselves.
Most clients, as they articulate what they want and make choices about their lives, may not be thinking for themselves. Instead, they're thinking what everyone around them is thinking. Or perhaps even more frequently, thinking what people around them are telling them to think.
So obviously you as their coach have no agenda for what they ought to think, but you are asking them to think. Make sense?
(6) Be aware of your own persuasive powers. Triple check your marketing.
Although I don't remember the precise incident, I do remember the feeling - it thudded into my physical body. I realized that with the way I try to live my life, and the things I try to stand for, when I try to sell something, I need to be careful.
I realized, if I were to try hard enough, I could probably sell almost anything to anyone. And I do believe that's true of many, many coaches, just because of how 'in integrity' most of us live our lives.
That's not arrogance, it's just a reflection of the kinds of relationships we create - we care, and it usually shows, and people feel they can trust us. So while I would never intentionally sell something inappropriately to anyone, this is important - I triple check my marketing. (1) I make doubly sure I've told the truth. (2) I ask myself if I've overpromised anything. And (3) I make sure what I'm selling is something that will add value.
After all of that is
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