vercome this problem.

Admit you have a problem.

This is crucial. You are more likely to be engaged and active in your own recovery if you admit that you have something you need to recover from. This is, by far, the hardest step for anyone. We like to think we are perfect, god-like even. But unless you able to shoot thunder bolts from your fingertips I suggest you be completely honest in any self-assessment you undertake.

If you are having trouble identifying your issues, talk to a trusted source or even ask someone who doesn't like you. An enemy ma

Have you ever woken up one day and realized that you were less than perfect? That you possessed a few unpleasant characteristics? I'm not talking about superficial ones, like the fact that your body now resembles Frosty the Snowman or that climbing more than two stairs causes you to wheeze like an asthmatic. I'm talking about the deeper, darker, seven-deadly-sins type traits, such as Gluttony and Sloth, that inspire us to consume half our body weight in Haagen-Daaz and to treat the mere mention of exercise like a sentencing to death row.

I was recently made aware of having a type of personality defect and by my own subconscious no less. I hold grudges. If a person has wronged me, not only will I hate them for the rest of their natural life, I'll spend a good portion of time figuring out how to get revenge. Insert maniacal cackle and gleeful rubbing of hands here. Necessary Disclaimer: I never have actually gotten revenge against anyone but I've certainly wasted many hours dreaming up ways in how I could.

Destructive traits are like food left in the refrigerator too long. We are all aware of how that innocent meatloaf , alone and forgotten in the back of the fridge, can quickly morph into the Hamburger of Doom. Likewise, our negative attributes oftentimes don't start out as such. At some point they did serve a purpose. Remembering someone's poor behavior can save you from wasting time on a person who is a colossal jerk.

It starts to become a problem, however, when it disrupts your life and inhibits your ability to get along with your fellow humans. I realized that a lifetime of grudge holding has left me with a somewhat negative attitude and I waste a lot of time and energy when I focus on insignificant, or even grudge worthy, things.

These types of traits not only puts your mental and social health at risk but your physical health as well. Anger raises blood pressure which can put you at risk for a heart attack or stroke. A negative attitude can spark depression which, in turn, is often associated with suicide. Overeating can lead to weight gain, a risk factor for diabetes.

Anyway you look at it, turning destructive traits into positive ones can only help to improve your life. I decided to do something more productive with my time and cull together a few tips to help overcome this problem.

Admit you have a problem.

This is crucial. You are more likely to be engaged and active in your own recovery if you admit that you have something you need to recover from. This is, by far, the hardest step for anyone. We like to think we are perfect, god-like even. But unless you able to shoot thunder bolts from your fingertips I suggest you be completely honest in any self-assessment you undertake.

If you are having trouble identifying your issues, talk to a trusted source or even ask someone who doesn't like you. An enemy may

ype of personality defect and by my own subconscious no less. I hold grudges. If a person has wronged me, not only will I hate them for the rest of their natural life, I'll spend a good portion of time figuring out how to get revenge. Insert maniacal cackle and gleeful rubbing of hands here. Necessary Disclaimer: I never have actually gotten revenge against anyone but I've certainly wasted many hours dreaming up ways in how I could.

Destructive traits are like food left in the refrigerator too long. We are all aware of how that innocent meatloaf , alone and forgotten in the back of the fridge, can quickly morph into the Hamburger of Doom. Likewise, our negative attributes oftentimes don't start out as such. At some point they did serve a purpose. Remembering someone's poor behavior can save you from wasting time on a person who is a colossal jerk.

It starts to become a problem, however, when it disrupts your life and inhibits your ability to get along with your fellow humans. I realized that a lifetime of grudge holding has left me with a somewhat negative attitude and I waste a lot of time and energy when I focus on insignificant, or even grudge worthy, things.

These types of traits not only puts your mental and social health at risk but your physical health as well. Anger raises blood pressure which can put you at risk for a heart attack or stroke. A negative attitude can spark depression which, in turn, is often associated with suicide. Overeating can lead to weight gain, a risk factor for diabetes.

Anyway you look at it, turning destructive traits into positive ones can only help to improve your life. I decided to do something more productive with my time and cull together a few tips to help overcome this problem.

Admit you have a problem.

This is crucial. You are more likely to be engaged and active in your own recovery if you admit that you have something you need to recover from. This is, by far, the hardest step for anyone. We like to think we are perfect, god-like even. But unless you able to shoot thunder bolts from your fingertips I suggest you be completely honest in any self-assessment you undertake.

If you are having trouble identifying your issues, talk to a trusted source or even ask someone who doesn't like you. An enemy ma

rgotten in the back of the fridge, can quickly morph into the Hamburger of Doom. Likewise, our negative attributes oftentimes don't start out as such. At some point they did serve a purpose. Remembering someone's poor behavior can save you from wasting time on a person who is a colossal jerk.

It starts to become a problem, however, when it disrupts your life and inhibits your ability to get along with your fellow humans. I realized that a lifetime of grudge holding has left me with a somewhat negative attitude and I waste a lot of time and energy when I focus on insignificant, or even grudge worthy, things.

These types of traits not only puts your mental and social health at risk but your physical health as well. Anger raises blood pressure which can put you at risk for a heart attack or stroke. A negative attitude can spark depression which, in turn, is often associated with suicide. Overeating can lead to weight gain, a risk factor for diabetes.

Anyway you look at it, turning destructive traits into positive ones can only help to improve your life. I decided to do something more productive with my time and cull together a few tips to help overcome this problem.

Admit you have a problem.

This is crucial. You are more likely to be engaged and active in your own recovery if you admit that you have something you need to recover from. This is, by far, the hardest step for anyone. We like to think we are perfect, god-like even. But unless you able to shoot thunder bolts from your fingertips I suggest you be completely honest in any self-assessment you undertake.

If you are having trouble identifying your issues, talk to a trusted source or even ask someone who doesn't like you. An enemy ma

or even grudge worthy, things.

These types of traits not only puts your mental and social health at risk but your physical health as well. Anger raises blood pressure which can put you at risk for a heart attack or stroke. A negative attitude can spark depression which, in turn, is often associated with suicide. Overeating can lead to weight gain, a risk factor for diabetes.

Anyway you look at it, turning destructive traits into positive ones can only help to improve your life. I decided to do something more productive with my time and cull together a few tips to help overcome this problem.

Admit you have a problem.

This is crucial. You are more likely to be engaged and active in your own recovery if you admit that you have something you need to recover from. This is, by far, the hardest step for anyone. We like to think we are perfect, god-like even. But unless you able to shoot thunder bolts from your fingertips I suggest you be completely honest in any self-assessment you undertake.

If you are having trouble identifying your issues, talk to a trusted source or even ask someone who doesn't like you. An enemy ma

vercome this problem.

Admit you have a problem.

This is crucial. You are more likely to be engaged and active in your own recovery if you admit that you have something you need to recover from. This is, by far, the hardest step for anyone. We like to think we are perfect, god-like even. But unless you able to shoot thunder bolts from your fingertips I suggest you be completely honest in any self-assessment you undertake.

If you are having trouble identifying your issues, talk to a trusted source or even ask someone who doesn't like you. An enemy may not be as tactful as a friend but at least they'll tell you straight what they think your problem is.

Make a commitment to change.

It's one thing to recognize you have a problem and quite another to do something about it. Many people realize they need to change and yet continue to skip happily along on the dangerous path their destructive traits have led them. Commit to making a change for the better. Do it formally. Write up a contract with yourself, sign it and then post in a place where it will serve as a daily reminder of what you are working on and why.

Become self-aware.

I think Buddha sums it up best when he said:

"Little by little, a person becomes evil; as a water pot is filled by drops of water.

Little by little, a person becomes good; as a water pot is filled by drops of water."

Basically what he is saying is, our negative traits are not something that we acquire overnight. It only seems that way because of the suddenness in which we realize they are a problem. Traits, good and bad, are cultivated through weeks, months, even years of repetitious behavior.

Start watching yourself closely. What you are looking for is that moment between stimuli and response where you have a choice about how you are going to behave. If you have a problem with gossiping and one of your friends comes to you with a juicy tidbit, you have a choice of whether you are going to participate or not. It will feel funny, at first, to make a different choice and people may give you weird looks when you do. After awhile, however, you, and they, will get used to it.

Set a goal.

It's easier to take a journey with a destination in mind. Set realistic and obtainable goals. If your deadly sin is that you respond negatively to everything, set a goal to be positive for one full day. When you have successfully achieved that, set the goal to two days and so on and so forth until you have officially broken yourself out that habit.

Gather up an army of coping skills.

Oftentimes our bad habits are our way of dealing with the stress of our lives. Exchange that poor coping skill with a more effective one. Journal, meditate, take a yoga class or listen to music. There are an infinite number of b