problem is, you don't. What then happens is that all those little upsets begin to grow into one big one. It gets bigger and bigger every time you don't stand upEver been accused of being aggressive when you thought you were simply being assertive?

This is actually quite common because usually it takes so much effort for unassertive people to stand up for themselves that their behaviour can often look more aggressive than intended.

Here's what happens. Let's say that in your day-to-day life you don't feel very assertive. People take advantage of you; you are easily intimidated some of the time; you give in too easily; you accommodate other people's wishes often above your own.

A lot of the time you'll rehearse in your head things you could say to stop these things from happening. The problem is, you don't. What then happens is that all those little upsets begin to grow into one big one. It gets bigger and bigger every time you don't stand up

t for unassertive people to stand up for themselves that their behaviour can often look more aggressive than intended.

Here's what happens. Let's say that in your day-to-day life you don't feel very assertive. People take advantage of you; you are easily intimidated some of the time; you give in too easily; you accommodate other people's wishes often above your own.

A lot of the time you'll rehearse in your head things you could say to stop these things from happening. The problem is, you don't. What then happens is that all those little upsets begin to grow into one big one. It gets bigger and bigger every time you don't stand up

your day-to-day life you don't feel very assertive. People take advantage of you; you are easily intimidated some of the time; you give in too easily; you accommodate other people's wishes often above your own.

A lot of the time you'll rehearse in your head things you could say to stop these things from happening. The problem is, you don't. What then happens is that all those little upsets begin to grow into one big one. It gets bigger and bigger every time you don't stand up

date other people's wishes often above your own.

A lot of the time you'll rehearse in your head things you could say to stop these things from happening. The problem is, you don't. What then happens is that all those little upsets begin to grow into one big one. It gets bigger and bigger every time you don't stand up

problem is, you don't. What then happens is that all those little upsets begin to grow into one big one. It gets bigger and bigger every time you don't stand up for yourself and you feel you ought to.

Finally, one day you've had enough! The next time someone says something to you, expects you to stay late to finish up a report, drive the kids to school, or any number of little inconveniences, you're going to do it, you're going to say something. You plan the conversation in your head; you know exactly what you're going to say and even what they are going to say.

But this takes courage!

So you steel yourself for this encounter. By the time it comes around you've probably worked yourself into quite a lather, at least internally. When the moment comes this is what often happens: you're